Vision. Why is it so hard to find it for myself?
As women, as mothers, wives, or gals just trying to figure out life and careers, it can be exhausting and overwhelming to see the best in our future.
I have always found that seeing the vision for my own future was extremely difficult. I have also learned the hard way that the absence of this vision leads to burnout, breakdowns, and hardship.
When it comes to Scotty, I have always believed amazing things for him, I constantly remind him all the things he can be and accomplish. I consistently speak truth to him. I have nothing but positive thoughts and prayers when it comes to him.
Then I had kids, and I have an amazing vision for them. I believe in them more than anyone else. I want them to have every opportunity under the sun and I want to be sure they are guided into their full potential.
However, when it comes to my vision for myself, all I find is negativity. I find negative thoughts swirling in my head, you can’t do that, you’ll never find the time, you can’t try to work with everything on your plate.
WOW, the irony.
I was recently in a room with the most amazing and incredible women and as we were going around sharing, one woman said, “I never share what I have accomplished. I’m going to brag.” I didn’t think she was bragging at all, she was just sharing what she had accomplished. She shared of her efforts to bring a new science program to her child’s school which has been hugely successful. Another woman spoke of how she is taking a break from her big corporate career and was venturing out on her own. She talked about how it is hard to promote herself, you could feel the unity in that moment, and we all let out a collective “I feel that way too.”
It got me thinking about how I am so quick to support Scotty, my kids and my friends, I will talk endlessly about how great they are, but then when it comes to me, I feel I’m bragging if I talk about some of the things I am doing. I feel I’m being selfish and boasting. Somewhere along the line our culture/society said we could not promote and talk positively about ourselves. I was shocked that all these high powered women were feeling the same way I was, making the point that it was not just my own personal environment that had put this idea in my head, but an unspoken thread through all of womanhood. Wow!!!!
It got me thinking, what if we decided to have the same vision for ourselves as we do for others? What if we really tapped into our potential as women, as the people God created us to be! I’m obsessed with the Proverbs 31 women, I just love her attitude, the way she works and manages her household. She is a reminder that God has called us to big things, and given our hearts passion and purpose. He wants us to use our skills and talents for good and doesn’t want us to be ashamed to share our skills with others. Ultimately when we fail to let our essential self-be known, we not only fail ourselves but all those around us.
Let’s stand today in promotion of each other. Let’s let our light and joy shine, let’s share our God-given gifts, assets, and skills with the world.
The Proverbs 31 women saw that her work was good and was bold in her faith. “She considers a field and buys it; From her profits, she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night……..She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet” Proverbs 31:16-21
“She considers a field and buys it; From her profits, she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength and strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night……..She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet” Proverbs 31:16-21
She has a clear vision of her purpose, talents and skills and I love that!!!!!
I don’t know about you but this passage encourages me to have a vision for myself and in doing so serve my family and others. Let us remember that we are made in His image, made to serve productive lives here on earth. Don’t let the enemy steal your purpose, skills, and boldness. God wants your essential self, unapologetically YOU, don’t let the world tell you who you are, let God.