Last summer was a huge transition for our family. Scotty retired from the military, so he was home working and sorting through all the paperwork that retiring brings; new insurance, VA, military paperwork etc. I felt like I spent that summer up to my ears in said paperwork and VA info, while my kids watched TV all summer. Looking back, I hated it, I felt like I was spinning my wheels and being a horrible mom. So I was bound and determined to make this summer the best one yet, that was until Scotty was gone the whole month of June, my awesome babysitter moved and my older two boys were home all day everyday, and I had even more tasks on my plate than I could handle and I felt it…THIS is going to be the worst summer yet! On top of that the weather was actually really horrible, cloudy and gloomy!
I started to reflect and learn a bit about myself (because like I said I was bound determined to make this the best summer yet), I was launching myself straight for another bad summer because I was so obsessed with having a great one! I recently mentioned this little story to a friend and she was shocked and reminded me that I did amazing things last summer, we hung out by the pool, traveled, went to the beach and she went on and on. And she was right, why was I being so hard on myself?
The conversations and stories we tell ourselves become our default when life gets tough, but they don’t have to be. For me it’s about mindset, figuring new ways to love this summer and all of life’s transitions because so much of life is a transition. In all honesty last summer was not that bad, it’s just the dialogue I told myself because I did not accomplish the goals I had in my mind, but then again, I didn’t set out a tangible plan to accomplish them, so I’m not being fair to myself….it’s a funny cycle huh?
SOOOOO this summer I’m writing a NEW STORY!!! And so can you.
How I’m going to make this the best summer yet:
- Find time to be creative.
- Plan my days to accomplish my goals. Come up with a good schedule and plan of action to give me time to accomplish my goals.
- Make the most of it. Summer does not last forever and neither does the time with my precious boys. My goal is to be very present when I am with them, to put my phone down and really enjoy the time we spend together.
- Find joy in the transitions. We never arrive at that perfect place, so I need to find joy in the transitions because that’s where real life happens.
- Be gentle with myself. Writing a new story is a skill and it needs practice, something I need to work at every day. Yeah, there might be days the boys watch a lot of TV, but that’s ok!
Anyone else out there hard on yourself? I know I’m not the only one, and I know it can drive us all to be more positive and realistic with our goals. Join me in writing an amazing summer story.
For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.